The story of bestselling author Jessica Knoll is a reminder of how hard it is to call rape what it is — even when it happens to you. Only hours after my own assault, I remember telling the people who were trying to help me to leave me alone, that it was no big deal and I just wanted to sleep. But more than that, the impulse to deny your own rape is an impulse born of the cultural meaning of victimhood. Shame is the key word. It unlocks a constellation of secondary violences that we use to punish rape victims. Knoll was publicly slut-shamed by peers and even a teacher.
Is Sex Binary?
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But her body and mind would do strange things when they were together. Sometimes she felt as if she was separate from her body, which would shake and shake after seeing him. This was a full-body shaking, more like a quake than a shiver. This must just be how it was, she thought. She dismissed them.
Denial Of Sexual Abuse
Chances are, when you're having sex, you want to orgasm — and who could blame you? But often, postponing your pleasure makes it that much more enjoyable, which is the concept behind practicing orgasm denial. As they say, good things come to those who wait and that pun was absolutely intended.
Many Christians believe the only way a woman can be unfaithful to her husband is by having sex with men other than her husband. Today we call this adultery. But in the Bible adultery was a two-sided coin.